feeling

I feel so dead inside. 

You talk of holes in walls, that was ten years ago! You will never let it go, and so to you I will always be that monster. 

I get upset about something, anything, and you get defensive or disappear, the result of both being I am alone. 

Is it any wonder I suppress any feelings I have?

And I do resent you blaming every weekend on me, saying that I use you as an emotional punching bag, saying I take out my feelings on you. I barely have any feelings anymore! You are the one who takes out your hard days on me, like clockwork if you are stressed I will get it in the neck. No matter what I do, I walk on eggshells and it makes no difference. 

 

The reason I said "please don't" is cos I knew exactly what was coming, and I really didn't want that, but surprise surprise here it is. 

All I can take away from this is don't get upset. Don't feel anything. And honestly I don't want to feel any more. Cos no matter what I feel your unrelenting guilt will turn it into your fault and therefore aimed at you.

If I feel, I am the volatile monster from ten years ago or some emotionally abusive asshole who gaslights and uses you as an emotional punching bag.

I don't want to feel anymore. Honestly I don't want to breathe anymore. I feel like I should leave cos with me gone all your problems would disappear.

I just don't want to feel anymore 

trust

So, we had an interesting chat this evening. I realised that I've never really trusted anyone before, I never could. I would never ask for help as I couldn't trust anyone to help me, they would just let me down. Now I can't let myself trust anyone. 

And now I'm thinking that maybe this is one of the issues that's troubling us. I think I stopped asking for help from you, not because I didn't trust you, but because it seemed like such a burden on you, trusting you was only hurting you and making things worse and harder for you. So I cloistered. I stopped asking, maybe I was scared that if you couldn't handle it it would feel like when I've been let down and that would actually break the trust. So I stopped so as to keep my trust in you.

Wow this sounds so convoluted. It's mulling about in my brain how to go about fixing this, finding a new tactic or whatever.

Hmmmmm

Watch this space 

chippa

The last couple of days has been lovely, things have been really bright and loving and somewhat serene. I'm a little bit anxious that there bottom is about to fall out at any minute. I'm not used to being happy. I don't know if it is the voice of experience, or if it's the voice of self hatred, cos I don't think I deserve to be happy. Maybe it's a bit of both. How do I allow myself? How do I silence the voices? I really don't know, but I know I need to figure it out cos I like life like this, and I want it to continue like this.

Also mistakes were made:

Zinger burger

Supercharger sauce

Hot wings

Spicy wrap

... Mistakes were made 

chaos

Just been chatting to ducky, can't believe this shit is happening to them. Feel really bad for them but I'm trying to be there for them as best as I can but I have no idea what else to say that would help. And you know me, I am desperate to try and help and fix things but this is one of those things where I know I can't and it's so frustrating to be so impotant. 

I think I need to channel it into something but it's so hard for me to focus right now. I can't concentrate on anything long enough to channel anything. I feel jittery but sluggish. Must be ADHD and depression fighting each while at the same time teaming up against me.

knees!

My knees are absolutely screaming! The pain is keeping me awake and I'm getting really sick of it. I think I need an actual foot pillow, the rolled up towel isn't cutting it. Tried taking cocodamol but one got stuck in my throat so I was coughing so much and I could taste it and they taste foul, and my throat was panic producing mucus making me cough and choke more. 

Also had my mind racing about money stuff. Really proud of the budget thingy I made but brain won't stop now and been working out daily chore tasks and stuff and as Alex would say, brain go brrrrr. 

Think my brain is going overdrive to distract me from the obvious. But my knees didn't need to join in.

I don't need knees right? Damn Maggie never returned my saw. Bitch. This is her fault now!

tears

I just keep crying. I can't make it stop. It just washes over me like a wave. It is one reason I can't be around anyone right now. Nothing in particular sparks it. It just happens. Feeling super fragile and vulnerable and it's all I can do to just curl up in a safe space so I don't break down. Nothing is ok. My mind feels so broken and everything seems so dark. I just wish I could stop the crying.

broken

I am broken.

A 30 year old festering, infected wound has been ripped open. I have shut down. 

I am broken. Broken.

I'm sorry it is inconvenient. I'm sorry I've ruined the weekend. I'm sorry to have such "luxury" as this.

I don't care about the argument, I don't care what was said, I don't care who was right. None of it matters.

I am broken.